When you’re thousands of miles away from your partner, fulfilling your cravings can be tricky. But if you want to spice your romance with your partner up, sexting is the win-win solution. Sexting is an exciting way to have lighthearted fun, engage in non-contact foreplay, explore fantasies, or even make a relationship playful and encourage intimacy. But effective sexting goes far beyond a message at 3 a.m. asking the cliché “Are you awake? This comprehensive guide to sexting is helpful if you want to spice up your text messages in the best way for you. These sexting tips are sure to get things off the ground-from setting clear boundaries and getting consent to a few phrases to light a fire.
Talk About It First
Always ask permission before refueling. The best way to get consent is to be honest. Say something like, “Hey, it looks like this conversation is getting a little heated.” Are you attracted to sexting? If not, don’t worry. This sort of thing works well because it invites the other person to participate without interrupting the flow of the conversation.
The response-or lack of response-will likely gives you an indication of the person’s interest. In any case, wait for the go-ahead before continuing, and remember not to put pressure on yourself. In the future, you can use agreed-upon language to let the other person know when you are in the mood for sexting.
Set Your Agreed Boundaries
When it comes to sexting, you and your partner are free to decide how safe and comfortable you feel: do you prefer to communicate only in writing, or are photos, videos, and voice notes also acceptable? Ask your partner if she is comfortable with terms such as “slut,” “whore,” etc., which are usually not good words. Pay attention to the time and place because not everyone likes to receive NSFW messages while working. Talk together about your personal boundaries so that you can proceed respectfully. You can also establish a safety phrase or emoji when things get uncomfortable. A shark emoji may be enough to close the conversation and steer it in a more positive direction instead of shutting it down.
State Your Intentions and Kinks
Based on phone screens, it is not always possible to predict what will happen between the lines. Sexting can be used for various purposes, such as foreplay or simple dating. Ensure that your interlocutor does not feel they need to act or respond immediately to your exchange. Make sure you and your partner know what you want to get out of this encounter. This includes representing your partner’s quirks and passions as well as your own. Remember to reestablish physical boundaries when you finally meet, in case the chat is only a prelude to a confrontational face-to-face encounter.
Start Heating Up Right
How could you warm things up once consent has been obtained and boundaries established? It does not have to be intimidating to read the first text. Play with the revealing messages you normally send. Write something as simple as “I can’t stop thinking about how you make me feel when you ride me like a cowgirl.” If you or your partner is wondering where you are or what you are wearing, this is the perfect time to think of a clever response. Remember that sexting can be embarrassing or silly. So as not to hurt anyone’s feelings, always treat each other with respect and sensitivity.
As a side note, anyone can write an erotic novel; you do not have to be a writer when it comes to sexting. Create a scenario in which you and your partner warm up the whole time. In the end, you will have a good read, superior to a romance novel. So put it into practice right away to see how your partner reacts.…